Episode 53

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10th Oct 2023

Parenting styles & promoting our children's independence

How do you deal with it if you have a different parenting style from your partner, parent, friend etc. and how can we make sure that the way we parent is helping to promote our children’s independence?

We chatted about: 

  • How different parenting approaches can impact on children’s resilience. 
  • The fact that we have become very risk averse and have started to always be there (in person or via technology) to make sure our children are OK. 
  • How our experiences of being parented can impact our own parenting style.  
  • That our ‘safety mode’ needs to teach our children how to help themselves when we aren’t there. 
  • What has changed since we were little without a phone or any tracking apps? 
  • Managing risk and trust – children need to feel trusted to try things with our support and suggestions. 
  • What happens when we micromanage our children. 
  • The importance of talking to partners and other carers about the approach you are taking – it’s a constant review.   
  • Changing your own narrative to take your own feelings out of it and problem solve together with your children. 
  • Striking a balance – not being too overprotective but teaching them the life skills to be able to cope. 
  • All the animals...! Tiger, Jellyfish, Elephant, Dolphin (lawnmower!) parenting etc. 

 

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