Episode 44

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Published on:

6th Jun 2023

Tantrum escalation!

For the first time in a while Claire posed a question in Challenge Becks – what would she do when faced with a monumental meltdown??! How did she answer..?  

  

We also talked about: 

  • Why a tantrum might escalate. 
  • Looking at our own triggers - how it is never easy in the moment especially with so many things are going on for both of you. 
  • Some ideas for strategies to use to help regulate ourselves (which we need to do, to be able to help regulate our children). 
  • How there are days when you will ‘smash it’ in terms of your approach and days when you go to bed feeling like the whole day has been a disaster (remember that you are only human and it’s OK!). 
  • The importance of making sure that children know what’s going on in their day, especially because it might help to prevent a tantrum escalation. 
  • Thinking about how you would help support a friend and look at how you can do the same with your children – ‘connect before you re-direct’. 
  • What you can do to try and help your child when they are mid meltdown (and whether offering a cuddle is like giving a reward for the tantrum). 
  • How the techniques you use with toddlers can also help when you have teenagers! 
  • And finally, some reassurance that even Claire can get triggered when a child is having a meltdown!  

  

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Newborn to Teen and Everything in Between
Your go-to for advice on how to communicate with the children in your life. Brought to you by family consultancy Bespoke Family, enabling families to thrive
Newborn to Teen and Everything Inbetween - it does exactly what it says on the tin! Join childcare experts Becks and Claire for practical advice about how to communicate with children, at all ages.
There can be a lot of pressure to 'get it right' when it comes to children, which can be quite daunting! Whether you’re a parent, a teacher, TA or childcare worker, or just looking to gain a better understanding of the world through a child’s eyes, Becks and Claire have 25 years of childcare experience to share with you. Listen for reassurance and support to help you navigate tricky conversations, challenging behaviour, complex emotions, and the general day to day pressures of raising and working with children.
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